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The
golden thread of a highly successful and meaningful life is self – discipline.
Discipline allows you to do all
those things you know in your heart you should do but never feel like doing.
Without self – discipline, you will
not set clear goals, manage your time effectively, treat people well, persist
through the tough times, care for
your health or think positive
thoughts.
I call
the habit of self – discipline “Tough Love” because getting tough with yourself
is actually a very loving gesture. By
being stricter with yourself, you will begin to live life more deliberately, on
your own terms rather than simply
reacting to life the way a leaf floating in a stream drifts according to the
flow of the current on a particular
day. As I teach in one of my seminars, the tougher you are on yourself, the
easier life will be on you. The
quality of your life ultimately is shaped by the quality of your choices and
decisions, ones that range from the
career you choose to pursue to the books you read, the time that you wake up
every morning and the thoughts you
think during the hours of your days, when you consistently flex your willpower by making those choices that you
know are the right ones (rather than the easy ones), you take back control of your life. Effective,
fulfilled people do not spend their time doing what is most convenient and comfortable. They have the courage to
listen to their hearts and to do the wise thing. This habit is what makes them great.
“The
successful person has the habit of doing the things failures don’t like to do,”
remarked essayist and thinker E.M. Gray. “They don’t like doing them either, necessarily. But their disliking is subordinated to the strength of their purpose.” The
nineteenth – century English writer Thomas Henry Huxley arrived at a similar conclusion, noting: “Perhaps the
most valuable result of all education is the ability to make yourself do the thing you have to do, when it ought
to be done, whether you like it or not.” And Aristotle made this point of wisdom in yet another way:
“Whatever we learn to do, we learn by actually doing it: men come to be builders, for instance, by building,
and harp players, by playing the harp. In the same way, by doing just acts we come to be just; by doing self –
controlled acts, we come to be self – controlled; and by doing brave acts,
we come to be brave.”
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